Have you ever tried to analyze your golf swing while your head is down, your feet shoulder-width apart and your club poised at the highest point of its arc? Unless you have a video camera and can step away in mid-swing to watch yourself on the display, it can't be done. You're too close to the situation. That's why successful golfers enlist the services of a Coach, someone to help them take the talent and ability they already have and refine it into a game-winning technique. Not many golfers can say they've won the Masters Tournament without the help of a coach.
The same can be said of Football, Basketball and Baseball. Very few players are in there coaching the team.
Sports and life are a lot alike. When you're facing challenges and changes in your life, whether they stem from your career, relationship or other facet of your situation, you can't just say, "everyone stop for a minute while I step outside the picture for a better look." That's where a Personal Coach comes in. Since he or she is removed from your situation, they can see it from an outsider's perspective, and help you to identify areas where you might benefit from a change in technique, or help you gain clarity about the focus of your goals. Using the services of a Personal Success Coach could mean the difference between "competing on a local level or taking it all the way to the Masters" where your life is concerned! The objective is to help you meet your potential and become the best "you" out there.
If you would like to explore the possibilities that Personal Coaching could open up in your life, email Elite Success Coaching at elitempowerment@gmail.com or visit us on the web at EliteSuccessCoaching.com .
Saturday, April 27, 2013
Monday, April 16, 2012
Time for a new 'do
It's about that time again...my hair is hanging in my eyes, roots are showing...yep, time to go to the hairdresser. Whenever I'm preparing for a new 'do, I go through the usual collection of magazines and websites, looking for that magic hairstyle that will transform my unruly mane into a thing of beauty. Sometimes it does. Sometimes it doesn't look anything like what I had in mind. I get a new look, but sometimes "new" isn't always "better". Oh well, it's only hair. It'll grow back.
For years, I chose my hairstyles according to what I thought the person I was in a relationship with would find attractive. Not being attached at this point, I'm free to figure out what I want me to look like. What makes me feel my best. Frankly, I think that's the way it should be anyway. If your feelings of attractiveness depend on whether someone else finds you appealing or not, then you'll be at loose ends unless you have someone around to tell you how to dress or wear your hair. You won't know what to think of yourself if no one is around to hold up the mirror.
One thing I found more than a little disturbing when researching my latest hairstyle, was a number of articles detailing the extremely negative feelings men have about us cutting our hair. Okay, I know that guys like long hair. Everybody knows that. But this goes beyond a simple matter of personal preference. One article detailed how the author cut her long hair, much to the chagrin of her long time boyfriend...he told her he didn't find her attractive anymore and they broke up shortly afterward. Really. Good thing she found out before saying "for better or worse, for sickness and in health"...I think we need to add another vow to that - "in long hair and in short." Another woman said her boyfriend didn't like her short hair because when he woke up beside her, he felt like he was in bed with a guy. Wow, what a charmer.
I think if a relationship is dependent on a hairstyle it's not much of a relationship. Hair grows. We cut it. It turns grey. It falls out on your head and grows back in your ears. It does all sorts of things that you aren't necessarily going to like, and it isn't going to ask your permission first. My advice to those follicle-fanatics who want to choose their mates by what's on their heads? Deal with it. Life brings change. If you're lucky, you'll leave this world with more hair than you came in with, but it isn't that way for everyone.
One of my dearest friends had long hair. I cut it for her once and couldn't believe how thick is was - it took me forever just to trim a few inches off of it. She battled cancer for several years and unfortunately, she lost her enviable locks because of the treatments. She told me that when she lost most of her hair, her husband shaved her head. Flowers and candy are nice, but that, to me, was one of the most loving things I could imagine a man doing for his wife. Youth, beauty...hair...they're all fleeting. You have to love what's inside. Hopefully that's what you're committing to when you say "I do".
Well, it's back to searching the 'net for my next hairstyle. I think I need to take my own advice: be fearless! Maybe I'll reinvent myself as a redhead this time.... ;o)
For years, I chose my hairstyles according to what I thought the person I was in a relationship with would find attractive. Not being attached at this point, I'm free to figure out what I want me to look like. What makes me feel my best. Frankly, I think that's the way it should be anyway. If your feelings of attractiveness depend on whether someone else finds you appealing or not, then you'll be at loose ends unless you have someone around to tell you how to dress or wear your hair. You won't know what to think of yourself if no one is around to hold up the mirror.
One thing I found more than a little disturbing when researching my latest hairstyle, was a number of articles detailing the extremely negative feelings men have about us cutting our hair. Okay, I know that guys like long hair. Everybody knows that. But this goes beyond a simple matter of personal preference. One article detailed how the author cut her long hair, much to the chagrin of her long time boyfriend...he told her he didn't find her attractive anymore and they broke up shortly afterward. Really. Good thing she found out before saying "for better or worse, for sickness and in health"...I think we need to add another vow to that - "in long hair and in short." Another woman said her boyfriend didn't like her short hair because when he woke up beside her, he felt like he was in bed with a guy. Wow, what a charmer.
I think if a relationship is dependent on a hairstyle it's not much of a relationship. Hair grows. We cut it. It turns grey. It falls out on your head and grows back in your ears. It does all sorts of things that you aren't necessarily going to like, and it isn't going to ask your permission first. My advice to those follicle-fanatics who want to choose their mates by what's on their heads? Deal with it. Life brings change. If you're lucky, you'll leave this world with more hair than you came in with, but it isn't that way for everyone.
One of my dearest friends had long hair. I cut it for her once and couldn't believe how thick is was - it took me forever just to trim a few inches off of it. She battled cancer for several years and unfortunately, she lost her enviable locks because of the treatments. She told me that when she lost most of her hair, her husband shaved her head. Flowers and candy are nice, but that, to me, was one of the most loving things I could imagine a man doing for his wife. Youth, beauty...hair...they're all fleeting. You have to love what's inside. Hopefully that's what you're committing to when you say "I do".
Well, it's back to searching the 'net for my next hairstyle. I think I need to take my own advice: be fearless! Maybe I'll reinvent myself as a redhead this time.... ;o)
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Reinventing Yourself Professionally
Changes in your work environment can be devastating when they aren't your idea. In today's economic climate, so many businesses are downsizing or closing that professional upheaval is not always personal, but when you're the one who's losing your source of income it sure feels personal.
Being laid off or forced to take retirement when you still feel you have a
lot to contribute is demoralizing, but it's not the end of the world. Here are some tips to overcome the doldrums when your job has come to an end:
* Give yourself a few days to mourn the loss of your job. BUT, don't get mired in misery. It's counter-productive to getting your life back in order.
* Don't let your job loss define you. Let it be an opportunity to reinvent yourself as an entrepreneur, or an artist, or even a belly dancer. This is the time to let your imagination run wild! It doesn't so much matter what you do, as long as you do something. A little creative action is a whole lot better than staying home in your jammies, watching The Price is Right.
* Don't wait for someone else to decide to give you a job.Use the extra free time to create one for yourself. It will keep your mind occupied while you're waiting for the perfect "next job" to come along and you might accidentally fall into a successful new career as your own boss.
* Don't worry about what people will think if you choose a job that's not as prestigious as the one you used to have. Maybe you were a high-powered executive, a stockbroker or a systems analyst, but something inside of you longed to be a landscaper or a manicurist. The next chapter of your life could be the most satisfying one yet if you get in touch with what works for you. Don't be afraid that people will compare your new enterprise to your previous career and wonder "what was he/she thinking???" In about 5 minutes they'll get over it and move on to criticizing someone else.
* If you've made a career change and it was a mistake, don't let your pride stand in the way of moving on to something that does work for you. Sure, it's hard to admit that the job or business you were so enthusiastic about hasn't worked out the way you planned. But in the interest of your sanity, don't drag it out. Cut your losses and move on to something better for you.
* And in the same vein, Don't condemn yourself if you try something new and it doesn't work out. I know it sounds trite, but the only true failure lies in not trying. You just never know if your next venture might be the one that clicks. Think Thomas Edison and the light bulb. Edison and his associates made over three thousand attempts before they made an efficient incandescent light bulb. Aren't you glad they didn't give up?
Those are only a few things to keep in mind when your professional life is in upheaval. If you've found a creative way to reinvent your career, please feel free to share it here. Until next time, Be Fearless!
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* Give yourself a few days to mourn the loss of your job. BUT, don't get mired in misery. It's counter-productive to getting your life back in order.
* Don't let your job loss define you. Let it be an opportunity to reinvent yourself as an entrepreneur, or an artist, or even a belly dancer. This is the time to let your imagination run wild! It doesn't so much matter what you do, as long as you do something. A little creative action is a whole lot better than staying home in your jammies, watching The Price is Right.
* Don't wait for someone else to decide to give you a job.Use the extra free time to create one for yourself. It will keep your mind occupied while you're waiting for the perfect "next job" to come along and you might accidentally fall into a successful new career as your own boss.
* Don't worry about what people will think if you choose a job that's not as prestigious as the one you used to have. Maybe you were a high-powered executive, a stockbroker or a systems analyst, but something inside of you longed to be a landscaper or a manicurist. The next chapter of your life could be the most satisfying one yet if you get in touch with what works for you. Don't be afraid that people will compare your new enterprise to your previous career and wonder "what was he/she thinking???" In about 5 minutes they'll get over it and move on to criticizing someone else.
* If you've made a career change and it was a mistake, don't let your pride stand in the way of moving on to something that does work for you. Sure, it's hard to admit that the job or business you were so enthusiastic about hasn't worked out the way you planned. But in the interest of your sanity, don't drag it out. Cut your losses and move on to something better for you.
* And in the same vein, Don't condemn yourself if you try something new and it doesn't work out. I know it sounds trite, but the only true failure lies in not trying. You just never know if your next venture might be the one that clicks. Think Thomas Edison and the light bulb. Edison and his associates made over three thousand attempts before they made an efficient incandescent light bulb. Aren't you glad they didn't give up?
Those are only a few things to keep in mind when your professional life is in upheaval. If you've found a creative way to reinvent your career, please feel free to share it here. Until next time, Be Fearless!
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Sunday, April 8, 2012
Seek Your Own Approval
Happy Easter! This is the season of renewal both Spiritually through the death and resurrection of Christ, and physically as heralded by the reappearance of the flowers and greenery of Spring. It's only appropriate that we incorporate some of that renewal into our own lives. Wayne (my former husband) told me I need to write a book on reinventing oneself, because I've done it, I've lived it, and made it work. That actually sounds like a good idea, because I've been trying to find something to write about. I've decided to start out slowly with this new blog, called Fearless Reinventions.
I appreciated his suggestion, because I think one of my best traits is my resilience. Rolling with the flow is my specialty. I've never been afraid to put myself out there and try something new. I've done things that would make other people's hair stand on end. Heck, I've made my hair stand on end, literally (bad perm!). To those who seek the safety and security of a regular paycheck, the choices I've made professionally would be unthinkable. To say I'm fearless would be wrong because I have plenty of fears, but I just don't let them keep me from trying a new way of approaching life. To be able to help others to face their fears and move past their personal and career impasses with a spirit of adventure and excitement would be a dream come true for me. Are you ready to reinvent a life for yourself without fear or boundaries (self-imposed or foisted on you by those around you)? Then let's get started!
Most of the time, change is threatening, not just to the person changing, but to everyone around them. Perhaps someone else's comfort level depends on you staying just as you are. Perhaps your partner will feel insecure if you lose 50 pounds and dye your hair blonde, or if you start working out and regain that 6-pack you had in your 20s. It won't be taken for granted that nobody will find you attractive anymore. Maybe going back to school and learning a new skill will mean you have less in common with your friends, or that new job will put you in contact with a whole new set of friends.
There are as many reasons to keep someone from changing as there are reasons why a person should change. But the bottom line is that it's your life and you have only one shot at finding your bliss. Once this day is gone, that's one less chance you'll have to reach out for what will fulfill you. Do you want to live your one life according to someone else's idea of what should make you happy, or your idea of joy? Make a vow to yourself that yesterday was the last wasted day you spend wishing you could live your life in a way that is satisfying. Start today to reach for what is going to make your life meaningful. Seek your own approval.
I appreciated his suggestion, because I think one of my best traits is my resilience. Rolling with the flow is my specialty. I've never been afraid to put myself out there and try something new. I've done things that would make other people's hair stand on end. Heck, I've made my hair stand on end, literally (bad perm!). To those who seek the safety and security of a regular paycheck, the choices I've made professionally would be unthinkable. To say I'm fearless would be wrong because I have plenty of fears, but I just don't let them keep me from trying a new way of approaching life. To be able to help others to face their fears and move past their personal and career impasses with a spirit of adventure and excitement would be a dream come true for me. Are you ready to reinvent a life for yourself without fear or boundaries (self-imposed or foisted on you by those around you)? Then let's get started!
Most of the time, change is threatening, not just to the person changing, but to everyone around them. Perhaps someone else's comfort level depends on you staying just as you are. Perhaps your partner will feel insecure if you lose 50 pounds and dye your hair blonde, or if you start working out and regain that 6-pack you had in your 20s. It won't be taken for granted that nobody will find you attractive anymore. Maybe going back to school and learning a new skill will mean you have less in common with your friends, or that new job will put you in contact with a whole new set of friends.
There are as many reasons to keep someone from changing as there are reasons why a person should change. But the bottom line is that it's your life and you have only one shot at finding your bliss. Once this day is gone, that's one less chance you'll have to reach out for what will fulfill you. Do you want to live your one life according to someone else's idea of what should make you happy, or your idea of joy? Make a vow to yourself that yesterday was the last wasted day you spend wishing you could live your life in a way that is satisfying. Start today to reach for what is going to make your life meaningful. Seek your own approval.
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